4 Ways to Sell - Without Feeling Salesy
There are only two reasons selling might feel “icky” to you:
You don’t fully believe in the product or service you’re selling.
You don’t fully believe in yourself (hello, imposter syndrome!).
If selling feels uncomfortable, let’s start there.
At its core, selling is simply offering something valuable (your service) in exchange for something equally valuable ($$). It’s a beautiful energy exchange where everyone wins.
If you’re confident in your product or service and genuinely want to help others, a simple mindset shift can make all the difference:
1. Embrace Your Solution
The first step to selling authentically is fully embracing the value of what you offer. Stand in the confidence that your product or service provides a proven, solid solution to a real problem. Think about it this way: if you had the cure for a common pain point and didn’t share it, wouldn’t that be unfair to those who could benefit?
Your service or product is a gift that can genuinely help others. Sharing it isn’t about being pushy—it’s about being helpful. By shifting your mindset from “selling” to “serving,” you’ll find it easier to approach potential clients with authenticity and enthusiasm.
Pro Tip: Remind yourself daily that what you offer has value. Affirmations like, “My service provides real solutions,” can help solidify your confidence.
2. Remain Unattached to the Outcome
One of the biggest mistakes in selling is becoming overly attached to the outcome of sales conversations. When you’re laser-focused on closing a deal, it can come across as desperate or overly transactional.
Instead, stand firmly in your role as a helper or problem-solver. When you approach conversations with the mindset of offering solutions rather than “making a sale,” you’ll naturally communicate with more authenticity. Paradoxically, this approach often leads to more sales and better client relationships because people feel your genuine desire to help rather than pressure to close.
Pro Tip: Practice active listening during sales conversations. Focus on understanding your prospect’s needs rather than pushing your agenda.
3. Balance Your “Give and Take”
Nobody wants to feel like they’re being bombarded with sales pitches. That’s why it’s crucial to balance your “takes”—like asking for a sale—with generous giving. For every “sales push” or “ask,” provide 3-4 pieces of free, value-driven content. This could include tips, guides, videos, or tools that address common pain points your audience faces.
This approach does two things: it demonstrates your genuine interest in helping people, and it builds trust with your audience. When they see that you’re invested in their success regardless of whether they buy from you, they’re more likely to view you as a trusted expert and partner.
Pro Tip: Use platforms like blogs, social media, or email newsletters to share consistent, high-value content with your audience.
4. Refer Back to Tip #1
At the end of the day, selling is about offering something great (your service) in exchange for something equally great ($$). It’s a beautiful energy exchange where both parties win. Stop thinking of selling as “annoying” or “pushy”—especially when you know your solution can genuinely help others.
When you reframe selling as an opportunity to share value and create mutual benefit, it becomes less about “selling” and more about connection. Trust the process, trust your service, and trust yourself.
Pro Tip: Celebrate every sale, no matter how small. Each one represents a successful exchange of value and an opportunity to make a difference.
Closing Thoughts
Selling doesn’t have to feel salesy when you approach it with confidence, authenticity, and a focus on serving others. By embracing your solution, staying unattached to outcomes, balancing your give-and-take, and reframing your mindset, you’ll not only sell more effectively but also build lasting relationships with your clients.
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